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I’m writing this to try and shed some light on something that I think more of us should think about, focus on and put into practice every day. What we do with our percieved ‘strengths’ is essential to our relationships and the well-being of the human race, or at the very least our immediate surroundings. Now granted I dont believe that we have all of the answers to our problems, and God knows that I dont have many answers at all. However in my 34 years I have asked a lot of questions and received answers as different as the people I have asked. Of course, I have done a good deal of demonstrating my percieved physical, mental and emotional…STRENGTH.

Of course, who am I to tell anyone about anything. I am neither an authority on this issue, and frankly there is not much to learn from a few words written on a social platform. The proof is in my progeny and the way that they interact with people when they reach my age. At any rate, the issue of strength-demonstrated has been with me for at least 10 years and it’s time to describe the fruits of the above theories, thoughts, actions and results I have collected on this subject.

First of all, and it may be obvious, but strength is far too often seen as a one-dimensional quality. Long ago a wise man wrote, ‘the race is not given to the swift, nor the battle to the strong’ and of course there is the fable of the tortoise and the hare. Many seem to only look at the feature of strength in themselves as a weapon. For instance we have all heard at one time or another heard someone refer to a ‘display of strength’, or ‘feats of strength’ whereas the actor demonstrates their ability in one discipline or another to the fullest extent. In this competitive context, it is applied to show a greater capacity for ‘doing’ one thing or another. Usually this is given us by nature, but can be enhanced by training and focus, and most definitely has mental and emotional aspects that are not completely understood.

Of course, in our sports and competition obsessed society, it is this aspect of strength that is most cultivated. Those who posess a degree of physical strength are celebrated, with little regard paid to the manner in which it is applied in life. Lots of these folks, and I dont think it is without meaning, tend to the extreme in their relationships with others. We train at the gym, we take classes and do excercises to increase our capacity for physical strength. For the most part however, the true measure of strength is something similar, but even more important.

True strength is akin to courage, but I wont define courage so as not to get off track as I have already written too much. True strength brings to mind a game of poker and the talent of ‘knowing when to hold’em’. In the same vein, we apply it everyday in life, especially parents. Jesus alluded to what a strong person is when he said of his followers ‘turn the other cheek’. In both cases, be it holding a royal flush or facing an aggressor on the wrong side, ‘restraint’ is the other side of the coin whose payoff usually results in an increase.

Reality television is a cottage industry of people saying foolish things under duress. We see it everyday on the nightly news when it involves road rage, which is essentially an offended person excercising the extent of their percieved strength and it usually turns out bad. Not to mention the person who started the issue in the first place – in a rush and paying no attention to others sharing the same road and MOVING IN THE SAME DIRECTION…

Yes, restraint! Or even better, control of ourselves, which alludes to the capacity or capability of one mentioned above. However, we are not in competition with one another, in fact we all play on th same team. In any team game, like say basketball, it is inherent to the goals of the team that each member control themselves at all times. If one player excercises his strengths to the fullest extent at the wrong time (here’s looking at you Amare Stoudamire), then the team concept is out the window.

Of course, there are many instances where one needs to ACT, and to the fullest of their capacity. That is essentially the difference. Like the woman whose child is under a car and she needs to lift the car off of the child in order to save her life. There are many who have one aspect of their strength developed to the nth degree, yet have no idea that strength excercised, unbridled, indicates weakness. In life, a beautiful woman has a capacity, or an ability to get many, many things she may desire. Of course, clearly understanding how to use her power (the game she is playing) is extremely important. Conversely a handsome man all the same has an ability to get many desirous (not neccesarily ‘good’) things, but nonetheless a substantial volume of the things he may so desire. Of course restraint is based on the principle of ‘what goes down sweet and easy, comes back hard and bitter’. Here, I’m talking about restraint that leads to an advantage. It’s what we want to teach our kids, and everyone knows how hard that principle is to learn.

I just hope that more people can learn to excercise true strength; that is understanding a situation (the game) and knowing when to act (shoot, dribble, pass) and when not to. To know that sometimes (I’m not advocating asceticism) the advantage lies in holding yourself back, and snatching the advantage from what seems to be weakness (thats for another day…or maybe never). Our team is depending on you to play your part, and when you dont play along, we all are the worse for it.

Written by lionoah

May 8, 2012 at 09:56

Posted in Uncategorized

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